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What does it mean to Remain Frame?

First, I must explain what it means to be congruent. What does it mean to be congruent, and how can it boost my confidence?

Congruent definition: In agreement or harmony.

If you pay attention to what people are doing, more than listening to what they're telling you. You'll find that there is a lot of talking and no walking. Their words and actions aren't in harmony with one another. Behaving like this will drop your attraction level so fast. It will make you incongruent.

Incongruent definition: Not the same, not compatible or out of place. When you take one position on something and then a second later you take a contrary position, this is an example of a situation where your statements would be described as incongruent...

Being incongruent is such an attraction killer. It makes you look needy and weak. Everyone can tell when somebody is incongruent, but fail to see it within themselves. Don't be like other people. be aware!


"It is more effective to tell people what you did, rather than tell people what you're going to do. Make them pay for the whole seat, but allow them to use only the edge."

Whatever you do, good or bad, you're practicing it. If you practice enough bad behavior, you'll be pro at it. Practicing incongruency is practicing beta behavior. Allow people to sit in suspense. It doesn't nothing but benefits you. How do you think you'd feel, if your actions spoke for you?


Something about me. I would lie to make people like me. Since I made the switch three years ago, I tell the truth. What I found out, is that people still get mad at you the same as if you lied to them and got caught. Since this is the case, it doesn't really matter what you say to people.

I'm not saying you should go around lying to people and tell people that it would benefit them if they stopped eating a cheesecake a day. I'm saying is, you need to tell the truth every time, when you find yourself in the position, to tell the truth, or lie.

"Are you mad at me?"

"Are you hungry?"

"Can you help me on this project?"

"Can you afford it?"

"Does this dress make me look fat?"

"What sort of person are you interested in?"

Some of these questions can make you feel uncomfortable. Some of them you'll have no trouble answering. Before you answer, you should first ask yourself, what do I want? Tell the truth!

We are only in this world once. Why would you waste it by not staying true to yourself?


What happens if you tell the truth and someone gets upset?

When this happens to me, I always tell them that I'm not going to lie to them. I have no control over how someone will react to a question they asked, willingly. I don't have time to be reactive like the person who didn't like the answer I gave.

Only work with what you have control over.


The frame is the personal perception of the world. You need to be the lead role in your own movie. When people pay for your attention, they are entering your frame.

Example: You've been working out and have shed a bunch of weight. Somebody might give you a compliment, and you're left wondering, who was that?

They entered your frame.

If somebody asked you if you like the gym, and you said you hate going. They would know that you aren't being very truthful. If you told someone that you love going to the gym, they respect that you told the truth, because you're words and actions match.

Imagine if you matched your words and actions in a different aspect of your life. Imagine the respect and confidence you'd get. Imagine all the time you'd be saving for yourself.


How does this apply to relationships?

A man's frame is the color blue.

A woman's frame is the color red.

When they're in a relationship, both frames turn purple.

Who's frame are you in?

You can be in a relationship and remain frame. You attracted your partner because you remained in your frame before them, now the trick is to not lose yourself in the purple frame.


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